An Unacknowledged
Taboo: Therapist-Client Sexual Violence
within a Model of Vulnerability
By Joel A. Falco, Second Year Clinical
Introduction
In the wake of traumatic incidents of sexual violence, people
frequently ask why. Faced with this perplexing question and this
taboo topic, many people dismiss the offender as demonic or psychotic.
Furthermore, people react with horror when the offender comes
from the social service profession. Researchers report that between
1 and 12 percent of all professionals cross the boundary of therapist-client
sexual abuse (Williams, 1992). However, the true number of therapists
who abuse their clients is likely higher because this taboo topic
is under-reported. When these news stories reach the public,
most people conclude that the offending therapist was a monster.
Yet, this conclusion belies the evidence and provides few solutions
that help the therapist and the client to heal and to recover
from their abusive patterns. By adding to the idea that the offender
is evil, therapists distance themselves from their own vulnerability,
leaving them unwilling to acknowledge the possibility that they,
too, might enter an abusive pattern. By not acknowledging this
possibility, therapists increase their underlying vulnerability.
A new paradigm that promotes a useful explanation may equip therapists
with ways to handle this problem in our field. A Model of Vulnerability
(Trepper & Barrett, 1989) provides an effective framework
within which to understand sexual violence.
A theory of vulnerability states that all human beings are vulnerable
to being victims as well as to being offenders. These vulnerabilities
emerge from a miasma of influences in social/political contexts,
in familial contexts, and in individual contexts (see diagram).
It is, therefore, imperative for all therapists to explore their
personal vulnerabilities to this type of violence rather than
to continue ignoring the problem. When therapists know their
own vulnerabilities and seek consultation, supervision, or therapy
when they feel out of control, sexual violence can be prevented
in most cases. The unexplored factors of vulnerability can create
situations of devaluation and powerlessness in the therapeutic
relationship. Abuse can then occur when the therapist exploits
the power and value differentials inherent in the relationship.
This paper explores many of the possible vulnerability factors
influencing the origin of therapist-client sexual abuse. Without
vigilant introspection, the therapeutic dyad remains vulnerable
to an unacknowledged taboo: therapist-client sexual violence.
Social/Political Contexts
The social/political context provides a cultural and social background
for all individuals, providing a cultural milieu and an atmosphere
that can create large-scale vulnerability. Because all are influenced
by its implicit messages, therapists and clients maintain a level
of vulnerability in this global context. The factors from this
realm may become potent and under-
examined influences when they are discussed as stereotypical
generalizations. When left unexamined these pervasive and pernicious
factors may lead therapists down the path of sexual violence.
In American culture, taboo acts generate vast amounts of attention
in the media. Themes of therapist-client relationships that bloom
into romantic love are commonplace and, consequently, encourage
sexual abuse. Similarly, American culture glorifies individualism
to a point where lust for power has no bounds. A therapist, vulnerable
to exploit this cultural standard in the power-infused, attachment-centered
therapeutic relationship, may seek control and gain power without
regard for their client's safety. Alternatively, cultural differences
between client and therapist may create vulnerability because
communication patterns contain culturally infused meanings. Without
acknowledging these cultural vulnerabilities and social meanings
that foster vulnerability, therapists and clients may find themselves
involved in a relationship of sexual violence.
Through inadequate training and denial, the community of therapists
further perpetuates vulnerability in the therapeutic dyad. The
therapists are generally untrained in managing sexual feelings
in therapeutic relationships (Pope et al.). This area is unfortunately
a footnote in most courses in the field, even though some therapists
will find themselves in relationships where they have sexual
feelings for their clients and their clients have sexual feelings
for them. Therapists who frequently deny these feelings because
of the cultural taboo may become more vulnerable to act out their
feelings with their clients. Compounding the problem of insufficient
education, the profession requires each therapist to police him/herself
with few external controls. The absence of external controls
fosters the requisite isolation for a taboo act to occur.
Isolation also plays a major role for individuals with limited
connections in personal or professional communities. These individuals
experience vulnerability because they may gain value only in
their therapeutic relationships. Because sexual attachment is
an important human value, individuals may seek sexual relations
within the therapeutic dyad as a means to gain value in their
professional relationships. Isolation also keeps individuals
from support networks, appropriate outlets, and information that
might minimize this vulnerability factor. To combat isolation,
therapists should maintain robust communities of personal and
professional relationships. Therapists must, therefore, seek
supervision, consultation, therapy, and outside relationships
to maintain a vital and non-abusive lifestyle.
Gender as a vulnerability factor has received the most attention.
Individuals who hold gender roles that define females as submissive
and males as dominant increase vulnerability in therapeutic dyads.
Female clients working with male therapists accentuate the inherent
power differential, creating a potent vulnerability. In addition,
males are vulnerable to offending behavior because they are socialized
to equate sex with attachment and females are vulnerable to being
victims because they are socialized to equate intimacy with attachment
(Trepper & Barrett, 1989). This gender socialization increases
vulnerability in female clients because therapy is an intimate
relationship and in male therapists because attachment is imperative
in therapy; thus, combining vulnerabilities to create a highly
vulnerable relationship.
In addition, males are vulnerable to offending behaviors for
various other reasons. Themes of conquest in male roles increase
their vulnerability to offend (Jenkins, 1990). Men are also socialized
to abdicate social-emotional responsibility to women and to restrain
emotional expression, minimizing their ability to attach to others
(Jenkins, 1990). Sexual feelings, then, become one of the few
ways for men to attach. With these confused attachment issues
and overdrawn power issues, men become highly vulnerable to sexual
violence within the intimate bonds of the therapeutic dyad. In
addition, men often perceive a woman's behavior as sexually motivated
(Pope, Sonne, & Holroyd, 1993). This male perception may
increase the vulnerability in male-female dyads because the man
will equate therapeutic intimacy with sexual desire. Overall,
therefore, gender differences create a high degree of vulnerability
to therapist-client sexual violence.
A therapist's sexual orientation may also affect his or her
vulnerability to therapeutic abuse. Homosexual therapists may
become over-involved with homosexual clients because of the minority
groupÕs strong communal bond. This enmeshment in an intimate
relationship like the 'herapeutic dyad increases vulnerability
to sexual violence because power differentials are ignored and
attachment issues are highlighted. Therapists, then, become too
close to their clients to evaluate the relationship objectively.
Enmeshed relationships are not limited to sexual orientation,
but homosexuality can increase vulnerability because of the strong
communal sense of the gay community. In addition, homosexuality
may create vulnerability because the mainstream culture rejects
their lifestyle, thereby devaluing homosexual individuals. Being
oppressed creates power differentials that can be exploited in
therapeutic dyads. Homosexuals, however, are not the only people
with increased vulnerability from sexual orientation factors.
Biased heterosexuals may sexualize the relationship by focusing
too narrowly on sexuality (Pope et al, 1993). Consequently, their
focus on sexuality may create an atmosphere where the therapeutic
bond and the therapeutic attachment is sexually defined. Therapists
must, therefore, be aware of and challenge their biases about
sexual orientation or they may be vulnerable to sexual violence.
Oppression in sexual orientation is similar to power differentials
in socioeconomic class, in age, and in race. Therapists from
a higher socioeconomic class, a higher age category, or the majority
race create a context intensifying the client's feelings of powerlessness
(Pope et al, 1993). The therapist may feel entitled to all that
the client has to offer, including sex, because of his/her status.
This lack of power creates a context where individuals may seek
power through offending or through being victimized. Clients
may seek a sexual relationship to decrease the fees for therapy
or balance the power differential. In addition, race relations
in America have become sex relations (Pope et al, 1993). Thus,
biracial dyads create a context of sexual curiosity and intrigue,
possibly leading to a sexualized therapeutic connection. Overall,
the differential in socioeconomic class, in age, or in race can
amplify the power differential in the relationship, creating
a higher degree of vulnerability in the therapeutic dyad.
Lastly, religious factors, in addition to reinforcing gender
roles, often require blind faith to the powerful one(s). This
blind faith demands followers to obey powerful figures, amplifying
the power of the therapist and increasing the dyad's vulnerability
to sexual violence. Religious beliefs also influence attitudes
toward sexuality, guiding our attachments and power through its
rules (Pope et al. 1993). Religious beliefs often support destructive
acts to uphold alleged higher causes and, therefore, increase
the vulnerability of potential abusers.
The social/political context, therefore, creates a web of influences
that can make a therapist or a client vulnerable to sexual violence
in the intimate bonds of therapy. This context is frequently
overlooked because these factors influence many individuals who
never cross the boundary of therapeutic sexual violence. Yet,
the messages we receive from these pervasive ideas do influence
our thoughts and behaviors. When these influences are unacknowledged,
vulnerability increases drastically because it remains unexamined
and unchallenged. As therapists, then, we must explore our vulnerability
so we can overcome the factors that create a context ripe for
therapist-client sexual abuse.
Familial Contexts
The familial contexts consist of the interpersonal relationships
which may increase vulnerability through relational issues. In
this case, the therapeutic dyad is the primary context. The factors
within this context create personal and interpersonal vulnerability
through their interaction. The typical hierarchy of a therapeutic
dyad places the therapist above the client, creating a vulnerable
power differential. The dominant therapist is vulnerable to control
the client and the submissive client is vulnerable to seek power
through sex (Jehu, 1994). Differentials in this context provide
the immediate climate in which the abusive patterns emerge.
Beyond the hierarchical factors of the relationship, communication
patterns can create increased vulnerability in the therapeutic
dyad. Unclear communication patterns create confusion through
undefined levels of meaning, complicating and compounding messages
of power and of attachment. Beyond clarity, communication patterns
that are defined by sexuality, like flirting, risk increased
vulnerability (Jehu, 1994). Similarly, individuals who disclose
sexual fantasies in sessions are vulnerable because they sexualize
the relational context. Beyond the content of the communication,
therapists who excessively self-disclose create a vulnerable
relational structure by becoming the clients' peer or by allowing
the clients to become their peer (Pope & Bouhoutsos, 1986).
These factors influence the relational context which, in turn,
can increase vulnerability. Communication patterns, therefore,
can lead to
factors that increase vulnerability to therapeutic sexual violence.
Similar to the communication patterns, certain relational styles
create vulnerability in therapeutic alliances. The most common
styles of therapeutic relationships are affectionate and erotic.
Affectionate styles are vulnerable because they amplify basic
therapeutic relational goals, a caring, loving, emotional relationship.
Magnifying these factors, a therapist and a client can become
enmeshed, blurring the therapeutic bonds and crossing the boundaries
into sexual violence. Erotic relational styles also create increased
vulnerability by sexualizing the dyad, often because the issues
are sexually stimulating (sexual abuse, incest, erotic transference,
etc.). Sexual abuse is more likely to occur within these relationship
styles than in more professional and ethical styles.
Within all relationships, rules and roles contribute to the
familial vulnerability to sexual violence. In therapy, the rule
of confidentiality, however necessary, increases the dyad's vulnerability
because it may be used as or may be perceived as secrecy. Transforming
confidentiality into secrecy through one member's perceptions,
the dyad operates like an incestuous family. Taboo behavior can
only be maintained through secrecy because social constraints
can only intervene in an absence of secrecy. Roles of relationships
work like rules because they govern behaviors and color perceptions.
The relational roles most often played out in the therapeutic
dyad are the therapist as savior and the client as victim. These
roles can amplify the inherent power differential within the
dyad. Thus, all clients are vulnerable to victimization because
of the dependent nature of their role. In addition, clients often
idealize their therapist, which further can magnify the power
differential (Jehu, 1994). Without constant vigilance about the
vulnerability inherent in the rules and in the roles of the therapeutic
alliance, therapists allow the vulnerability to sexual violence
to remain unchecked.
Within the relationship, therapists need to maintain a balance
between boundaries and adaptability to limit their vulnerability
to taboo behaviors like sexual abuse. Therapists must clearly
delineate the therapeutic boundaries or they may, wittingly or
unwittingly, use their power to victimize their clients. Therapists
who maintain limited or blurred boundaries, even seeing their
clients in other contexts, increase their vulnerability. Ultimately,
therapists are responsible to maintain clear and ethical boundaries
in an overt manner to decrease their vulnerability. Alternatively,
therapists cannot maintain a stance of rigidity in the therapeutic
bond without creating vulnerability. A lack of adaptability increases
vulnerability by inequitably sharing power because rigid relationships
do not adapt to situational factors. Individuals with limited
adaptability have increased vulnerability to sexual violence
because they perceive the world in extremes, which allows them
to build excessive attachments, including ones which are sexual.
Consequently, therapists need to balance therapeutic boundaries
with a healthy adaptability to limit their vulnerability to sexual
abuse.
Transgenerational patterns impact vulnerability, especially
for therapists who because of emotional or sexual abuse in their
own families of origin often become impulsive affection seekers
(Trepper & Barrett, 1989). Clients who have had similar experiences
in their families of origin are more vulnerable because they
may expect sex with the therapist, believing perhaps that objections
would not be respected. Therapists who had poor primary relationships
with their caregivers have increased vulnerability because they
did not learn appropriate ways to share power (Trepper &
Barrett, 1989). Female therapists who were sexually involved
with educators, supervisors, or therapists are more vulnerable
to offend (Jehu, 1994). Frequently individuals with transgenerational
patterns continue the abuse through a Victim Survivor Cycle,
in which individuals continually recreate the system of abuse
in their relationships. Consequently, individuals who carry these
patterns into the present increase their vulnerability to therapist-client
sexual abuse.
Individual Context
Characteristics within the individual may foster a context in
which sexual violence is more likely to occur. Within the individual
context, sexual dysfunction may cause one to seek sexual gratification
within the intimate bonds of the therapeutic dyad. Therapists
who suffer from personal distress are at increased vulnerability
to offend because they need attachments to regain their power
(Jehu, 1994). Individuals with mental illness generate vulnerability,
especially clients with Antisocial Personality Disorder or Borderline
Personality Disorder (Jehu, 1994). Clients with these diagnoses
lack morality and exhibit impulsive behaviors, creating vulnerability.
These individual characteristics, therefore, may leave both
clients and therapists ultimately more vulnerable to a sexually
abusive experience within the dyad.
Either individual in the therapeutic dyad at one extreme of
the dissociation continuum increases the vulnerability of that
context. A disinterested individual may inadvertently encourage
the other person to strive harder to gain attention, even to
the extreme of sexual behaviors. At the other end of the continuum,
people with Dissociative Identity Disorder are vulnerable to
the other person's reality. The person dissociating has no way
to make a competent decision about the situation. Dissociation
from sexual advances creates vulnerability directly through unawareness
and indirectly through silent 'acceptance' (Jehu, 1994). When
in a dissociative state, the individual may not able be to attend
closely to signs of sexual violence.
Dysfunctional coping mechanisms (self-medication, denial, intellectualization,
cognitive distortions, minimization, etc.) also increase an individual's
vulnerability. Clients who have been victimized in the past often
exhibit learned helplessness by externalizing power (Jehu, 1994).
By recognizing only external forces, individuals believe they
cannot control themselves or others. Externalized power can only
be gained by clients from others, possibly through victimization.
A highly developed rationalization schemata allows a therapist
to 'devise' sex as beneficial for the client.
Therapists frequently have difficulty admitting fallibility;
consequently, they often do not have adequate support systems
within which to process such powerful emotions as intimacy and
sexual attraction (Pope & Bouhoutsos, 1986). People who cannot
admit their faults may abuse their power to remain in control.
Grandiose therapists may feel entitled to use unorthodox methods,
even sexual ones (Jehu, 1994). In addition, a lack of education
about the intimacy of the therapeutic relationship in training
and educational programs does not prepare therapists for these
inevitable feelings. Then, therapists may infuse meaning into
the feelings, allowing them to act on their (or their client's)
'unusual' feelings of affection and love. Therapists must exhibit
professional ethics in all their clinical interactions to limit
this vulnerability factor's potency.
Individuals with impulse control problems, especially individuals
with Borderline Personality Disorder, become vulnerable by making
boundaries illusory. Therapeutic dyads create deep emotion that
can lead to abuse by impulsive individuals because they externalize
power and, therefore, create vulnerability.
Individuals with addictions also create vulnerable contexts
within the therapeutic dyad because power and control are externalized
for addicts. Addictions create vulnerability because the addict
does not control all of his/her actions; some or many of the
person's behaviors are motivated by the addiction. Addicts often
behave without regard for morals or others' safety, leading to
vulnerable narcissistic actions. People with sexual addictions
are vulnerable to abuse because they tend to sexualize situations
and people.
Recommendations
The numerous vulnerability factors of therapist-client sexual
abuse create a web of influences difficult to counteract. This
abuse can be prevented by a dually pronged awareness approach
focusing on both therapists and clients. Each professional school
should train all students to manage sexual feelings effectively.
Professional associations and agencies should also train professionals
about these issues while providing opportunities to explore their
own vulnerability and seek resiliency.
Professionals should provide all clients with written information
and a verbal summary describing important concepts about therapist-client
abuse and ways to prevent it. This information may contain a
checklist of warning signs, but should contain a plan for managing
abusive situations and a list of supportive resources. With these
precautions, therapists can minimize the potential for abuse
within therapeutic relationships. All professionals must take
responsibility for educating themselves as well as their clients
to limit the vulnerability to therapist-client sexual abuse.
All therapeutic dyads are infused with some vulnerability to
sexual abuse; therefore, we have a professional mandate to acknowledge
this vulnerability through awareness. If we fail, this unacknowledged
taboo will damage our profession and hamper our work to reduce
the incidence as well as the harmful effects of violence. |
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